I have come to see from Native American people that I have spent time with that they see themselves in relationship with all of the natural world around them. The plants and animals are all their brothers and their sisters. Because of those relationships they are thankful for all food and all weather and all bounty that they encounter - none of it is taken for granted and none of it expected. Nor is the appears of some plants labeled "weeds", nor some animals or weather as bad. Each are seen to be bringing their own gifts. This too seems like a posture of gratitude that I never learned coming from ancestors who took what they wanted from the earth with little consideration.
There is a Chinese Proverb that goes something like this…
A farmer and his son had a beloved stallion who helped the family earn a living. One day, the horse ran away and their neighbors exclaimed, “Your horse ran away, what terrible luck!” The farmer replied, “Maybe so, maybe not. We’ll see.” A few days later, the horse returned home, leading a few wild mares back to the farm as well. The neighbors shouted out, “Your horse has returned, and brought several horses home with him. What great luck!” The farmer replied, “Maybe so, maybe not. We’ll see.”
Later that week, the farmer’s son was trying to break one of the mares and she threw him to the ground, breaking his leg. The villagers cried, “Your son broke his leg, what terrible luck!” The farmer replied, “Maybe so, maybe not. We’ll see.” A few weeks later, soldiers from the national army marched through town, ceasing all the able-bodied boys for the army. They did not take the farmer’s son, still recovering from his injury. Friends shouted, “Your boy is spared, what tremendous luck!” To which the farmer replied, “Maybe so, maybe not. We’ll see.”
This story points out that what we are grateful for one moment maybe something we regret in another moment and vise versa. I was quite fascinated by some happiness studies that pointed out that how people rated the goodness of certain events in their life had to do with whether they compared themselves up or down. By which they meant if you have a "peer group" that you see as wealthy, healthy, wise and blessed and this is who you compare yourself to you will often report dissatisfaction in our own lives. If however we have a peer group that is in poverty, poor health, ignorance or unhappy then we will consider our situation very lucky. It is sort of sad for me to think that our very same situation could be viewed completely differently depending upon what we are comparing it to. The story of the Chinese farmer above also points to how one could live not assigning a goodness or a badness to an event. In a previous blog, Who is Wealthy? https://thefriendlyseeker.blogspot.com/2018/02/, I wrote I about how pretty much anyone middle class or more in the US is in the global 1%. Yet because we compare ourselves to millionaires or even billionaires in our country most of us live with some false sense of struggle and deprivation. How could we keep perspective on how blessed we are to have a roof over our head, to have food to eat, fresh running water, to have freedom, to be able to see and hear and walk, to have health, to have love? (and if you don't have one of those how lucky you are to have the other things?) I write this to myself because I struggle all the time to keep perspective on how blessed I am by a Provider who is gracious.
